man attacks innocent woman, smashing her windscreen, after he accosted her with unwanted advances

Street harassment is a real issue with real consequences. Although not every instance of street harassment is as ‘serious’ as this, many are worse and almost every single one leaves a lasting negative impression on the person it was aimed at. In this case, a woman not only has to shell out to repair her vehicle, but she feels so unsafe she’s had to leave her home and move back in with her parents, all the while the man that attacked her and kicked in her windshield has thus far not been found or held accountable for his actions.

To me there’s little difference here between a man feeling entitled enough to make vulgar comments about my body when I walk past him down the street, to the countless men who have followed women home, to those men that have inflicted physical and mental damages such as this and to the stalkers that have killed their victims. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, smaller instances of sexism that people so often brush off, such as everyday sexism and street harassment, pave the way for the ‘bigger’ things with more severe consequences and women and nonbinary people ending up dead.

‘I have a boyfriend’ or ‘I’m gay’ shouldn’t need to be used to reject someone’s advances – ‘I’m not interested’ should suffice. It seems funny to be saying this when almost everyone in the circle that I’m posting this in would agree, however street harassment is SO prevalent in every country in the world, that very clearly (and very unfortunately) these things still need to be said.

In my personal experience, and that of many other women’s, often men will only stop hitting on women once the woman tells the man that they have a boyfriend, to be read as: they’re already another man’s property. Only then will the man hitting on you relentlessly respect another man’s perceived right over you, more than your right to say no, and leave you the fuck alone. How this is still happening in 2018 is beyond me. How 90% of people are still allowing this to happen in 2018 is beyond me.

The headline shouldn’t mention the woman’s sexuality and shouldn’t describe what the man has done in retaliation to her denying him – it should read that an entitled and unstable man has attacked a woman and damaged her vehicle after not respecting her right to deny a stranger’s unwanted advances.

It’s just the icing on the cake to hear later in the article that people have criticised this woman for her retaliation to the attack. If someone was stood on the bonnet of your car, kicking your windshield in, I’m pretty sure most people would take the same course of action: firstly, reversing to try to knock them off and then getting the hell out of the car when that didn’t work. To hear criticism of the WOMAN’s actions in this article and not the MAN ATTACKING THE WOMAN AND HER VEHICLE is just baffling. Yet I can’t say that it’s surprising, because we all know two lovely words beginning with V and B that rhyme with bictim vlaming. (That’s ’victim blaming’ for those of you that aren’t sure.)

Misogyny is a hate crime in Nottingham. Misogyny needs to be considered a hate crime across the globe. It doesn’t matter how many #metoo’s, #timesup’s, protests, strikes or marches it takes; women and nonbinary people all over the world are going to make this happen.

 

 

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there is no damn place for racism

I am sick to fucking death of racism, ignorance and blatant disregard for humanity.
Shame on you if you can’t see past the writings of The Sun to understand that people are driven to act on fear and desperation, and that people are suffering and dying in the process.
Shame on you if you cannot understand that another human being has died, emphasis on ‘human being’ and the fact that they are dead. But who cares? At least it’s not another person in the country, leaching off the state and the NHS.
Fucking shame on you if you likely voted in the Tories and are now complaining that they’re ruining the NHS whilst doing absolutely fuck all about it.
Shame on those that dare to be racist whilst listening to almost any form of music, eating Indian/Chinese/Italian/whatever takeaways and planning your next holiday abroad – enriching your life with other cultures whilst condemning anyone that isn’t British.
Shame on you if you can’t take six seconds to search on the internet to find out (something that I thought most people knew) that the media blows all statistics way out of proportion – the country is not ‘full’, our immigrant population was between 13-15% in 2013 whereas the Great British Public thought the figure was 31%. Assumed figure for percentage of UK population being Muslim was 24% – whereas the actual figure is 5%. It doesn’t take long to realise that the media feeds the racist trolls.
Shame on you if you instil your vitriolic views on your innocent children who grow up thinking it’s acceptable to judge another human being on the colour of their skin or the country that they come from.
Shame on you if you can’t even understand that refugees are human beings too, they aren’t animals that will shit on your lawn and steal your food. Stealing would be a last resort, to keep their family alive, just like you need food to be alive too. And if you didn’t have any, I’m sure as shit that you would acquire it for your family or yourself by any means necessary. If you were to feed and shelter your fellow human beings, however, there would be no need for stealing.

You people are like the bands of ‘punks’ in every zombie game, that are still human, that go around killing the other humans. Who the fuck does that? Can’t you see that everything is already so, incredibly shit? Why do you need to be there making everything worse? Why can’t you stick by your fellow human beings and have some goddamn compassion?